What's going on!!?? Sleep issues [long]

[Shades]

I feel like I'm doing the worst job in the world. Why does it have to be like this - that what is best for him can't just work with what is best for me or my relationship
I know it's related to cultural expectations and it's sucky. I'm feeling like I'm a failure because I can't meet everyone's needs and it's just that society encourages demands that aren't compatible with the way babies work.
How am I supposed to choose between my baby's needs and those of myself and my relationship?

[Ginger]

it's so hard shades, i really feel for you. my two boys both needed to be comforted to sleep every time when they were young too.
i know you said you've read 'the science of parenting' which is probably my favourite parenting book of all time btw, but have you read 'the no cry sleep solution'? i know it has helped lots of mums on here.